In This Article
Why Body Language Matters More Than You Think
First Impressions Are Physical
- +Confidence signals are processed before credentials
- +Nervous body language triggers skepticism about your answers
- +Strong initial presence creates a 'halo effect' for the rest of the interview
Emotions Are Contagious
- +Positive body language makes interviewers feel good about you
- +Relaxed candidates create relaxed conversations
- +Your confidence (or lack thereof) becomes their confidence in you
It Demonstrates Self-Awareness
- +Self-awareness is a top-rated competency for most roles
- +Executives specifically look for 'executive presence' in candidates
- +Your non-verbal communication is a proxy for your social skills
THE 7-38-55 RULE
According to Albert Mehrabian's famous study, communication impact breaks down as: 7% words, 38% tone of voice, and 55% body language. While this ratio varies by context, the principle holds: HOW you say things matters as much as WHAT you say.
Before You Enter the Room
The Power Pose Warm-Up
- +Do this in private - not in the lobby
- +Combine with visualization of a successful interview
- +Avoid 'low power poses' like crossed arms or hunched shoulders
The Waiting Room
- +Avoid fidgeting, bouncing legs, or nail-biting
- +Review your notes briefly - shows preparation
- +Use good posture even when you think no one is watching
The Entrance: First 30 Seconds
The Walk
- +Maintain a natural, confident pace
- +Look toward where you're going with soft eye contact
- +Smile slightly as you approach
- +Have materials in one hand, leaving other free for handshake
The Handshake
- +Avoid the 'dead fish' (too weak) or 'bone crusher' (too strong)
- +Wipe sweaty palms discreetly beforehand
- +If they don't offer a hand, don't force it - some cultures avoid handshakes
Initial Positioning
- +Place your belongings neatly to one side
- +Don't create barriers between you and the interviewer
- +If there's a table, keep your hands visible on or near it
THE ENTRANCE SEQUENCE
Here's the optimal 30-second entrance: Walk in with confident pace, head up, slight smile. Make eye contact with the interviewer from across the room. Approach with hand ready for handshake. Say 'Good morning, I'm [Name]. Great to meet you.' while shaking hands firmly for 2-3 seconds. Wait to be offered a seat, then sit with controlled movement, positioning yourself slightly forward. Place materials down, turn full attention to interviewer. Ready.
During the Interview: Core Principles
Posture
- +Good posture increases others' perception of your confidence by 25%
- +Slouching makes you appear disengaged and tired
- +Adjust position occasionally - stiffness looks unnatural
Eye Contact
- +Too little eye contact: perceived as dishonest, insecure, or disinterested
- +Too much eye contact: perceived as aggressive or intense
- +Practice the 'triangle technique' - shift between eyes and nose
- +If eye contact feels uncomfortable, look at the bridge of their nose
Facial Expressions
- +Practice 'active listening face' - engaged, interested, responsive
- +Avoid: frowning, eye-rolling, blank expression, nervous smiling
- +Real smiles engage the eyes - fake smiles don't
Hand Gestures
- +Keep gestures within your personal space
- +Don't gesture constantly - it's distracting
- +Avoid: pointing fingers, clenched fists, covering mouth, touching face excessively
THE MIRRORING TECHNIQUE
Subtly mirroring the interviewer's body language builds rapport. If they lean forward, lean forward. If they gesture while speaking, incorporate more gestures. Don't mimic exactly - that's obvious and weird. Match their energy level and general posture instead.
Managing Nervous Body Language
Fidgeting
- +Stillness signals confidence and composure
- +Minor movement is natural - constant movement is problematic
- +If you need physical release, press your toes into the floor (invisible)
Vocal Nervous Habits
- +Pause instead of saying 'um' - silence is powerful
- +Record yourself practicing to catch vocal habits
- +Breathe deeply to slow speech naturally
Physical Comfort
- +Hungry or thirsty signals get misread as nervousness
- +Temperature matters - if you're too hot, you'll seem flustered
- +Choose clothes you feel confident in
NERVOUS TO CONFIDENT: REFRAME
The physical sensations of nervousness and excitement are nearly identical: elevated heart rate, heightened alertness, adrenaline. Before your interview, tell yourself 'I'm excited' instead of 'I'm nervous.' This psychological reframe has been shown to improve performance because it changes how you interpret your body's signals. Excitement is energizing; nervousness is debilitating. Same sensations, different interpretation, different body language.
Body Language for Virtual Interviews
Camera Setup
- +Low camera angle (laptop on desk) is unflattering and signals low status
- +Raise laptop on books or use external webcam at eye level
- +Test your setup before the interview
Virtual Eye Contact
- +Looking at the screen makes you appear to be looking slightly away
- +This is the most common virtual interview mistake
- +Brief glances at the screen are fine - don't stare at camera constantly
Exaggerated Presence
- +Don't go overboard - exaggerate, don't become theatrical
- +Record yourself to calibrate appropriate levels
- +What feels slightly over-the-top often looks normal on camera
Environment and Lighting
- +Professional background: neutral wall, bookshelf, or tasteful decor
- +Virtual backgrounds can glitch - use sparingly
- +Clean, uncluttered space signals organized mind
Reading the Interviewer's Body Language
Positive Signs
- +Leaning forward toward you
- +Nodding while you speak
- +Taking notes on your answers
- +Smiling genuinely
- +Making consistent eye contact
- +Asking follow-up questions
- +Mirroring your posture
- +Relaxed, open body position
- +Discussing next steps or future scenarios
Warning Signs
- +Leaning back or away from you
- +Crossed arms or legs (defensive)
- +Looking at clock, phone, or door
- +Minimal eye contact
- +Flat or forced expression
- +Short responses or interruptions
- +Fidgeting or restlessness
- +Closing notebook or putting down pen
- +Cutting questions short
How to Respond
- +Don't assume the worst - they might just be tired
- +Adjust subtly - don't call out their body language
- +Stay confident even if cues are negative
THE POKER FACE INTERVIEWER
Some interviewers are trained to maintain neutral expressions to avoid influencing candidates. If you're getting no feedback through body language, don't assume the worst. Continue with confident body language and strong answers. The feedback will come in the form of an offer - or not.
The Exit: Lasting Impressions
- 01Maintain positive body language until you're completely gone
- 02You may pass other employees - stay professional
- 03The elevator and lobby are still interview space
- 04Your final impression lingers in their memory